Looking For A Therapist Who Truly Understands Men’s Issues?
- Despite your hard work and accomplishments, does it seem like you’re constantly falling behind or still “not good enough”?
- Are you always exhausted from trying to prove your worth by pushing yourself to do more, work harder, and perform better?
Perhaps you’re a professional, academic, or creative who’s looking to optimize your strengths and set a healthy work-life balance that actually lets you enjoy your success.
Or maybe you’re considering therapy for men because a painful experience from your past has left you with a deep sense of shame, guilt, or fear that’s holding you back.
Guys Endure Challenges That Often Go Unseen
Many of my clients silently struggle with things like anger, self-doubt, anxiety, sadness, physical fatigue, and low libido. However, I also see a lot of guys who’ve fundamentally lost touch with their sense of direction, purpose, and vitality. They get up, go to work, parent some, maybe work out—then it’s wash, rinse, repeat.
When you feel stuck like that, it’s easy to fall victim to “just work harder/perform better” while ultimately suffering in silence. Unable to relax or slow down, you may even flirt with substance use or other risky behaviors—or maybe you’re unconsciously isolating yourself, creating distance in crucial relationships.
Whether you feel stuck, unfulfilled, or just ready for a change, my action-oriented approach to therapy for men’s issues at Robert Allison Counseling can help. Together, we can clarify your values and define steps you can take to heal, optimize your strengths, and reconnect with a sense of vitality and purpose in life.
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Our Cultural Emphasis On Self-Reliance Often Harms Men’s Health
When it comes to mental health and therapy, men are historically underserved, yet we struggle with many powerful and often unseen challenges. In many cases, we’re still implicitly expected to be the breadwinners of the family, so we face a ton of financial stress.
We’re also encouraged through toxic social narratives to avoid being vulnerable and expressing our feelings, which usually results in emotional dysregulation. Advertising campaigns and social media posts maximizing grit spark fears of inadequacy.
Plus, we’re immersed in a culture that, oftentimes, explicitly defines a man’s value by his wealth. So we end up questioning our worth while working ourselves to death.
Why Can’t We Just Course-Correct Ourselves?
Men are naturally hardwired to solve problems, fix things, and take action, which is great and also something we can take advantage of in therapy. Sometimes, though, that intrinsic get-it-done nature interferes with healing because we’re conditioned to believe that asking for help means we’re weak, lazy, or incompetent.
Essentially, we prioritize self-reliance so much that we end up deprioritizing our relationships, our happiness, and our mental and physical well-being. However, healing and building a life of meaning and purpose sometimes requires a little guidance—and that’s okay.
My approach to therapy for men gives you the chance to step back, tend to the scars of the past, and find real ways to improve your life. Whatever your situation, I promise to be an empathetic ally who meets you with unconditional respect, compassion, and acceptance as we figure things out together.
Therapy For Men Provides Personalized, Empathetic Support
For men, opening up and sharing our pain is difficult because most of us were never shown how to manage or express our emotions. Instead, we’re taught to never act vulnerable in front of others, certainly not in front of women, which is why a lot of men intrinsically seek out a men’s therapist.
What’s more, men and women have different lived experiences. We have different perspectives. We face different forms of adversity—and we experience and process emotions in subtly different ways. That’s why it can be especially helpful to collaborate with a men’s counselor—someone who shares a similar lived experience and really gets it.
How Are Men’s Counseling Sessions Structured?
Because each person’s situation is different, I approach therapy for men from three angles:
First, we’ll explore the challenges you’re facing with an eye on where problematic thoughts, feelings, or behaviors are originating from.
Then, we’ll take a snapshot of your current life, looking at what you’re content with, what could use improving, and just how aligned your life is with where you would like it to be.
We’ll end with talking about what’s most important to you—what drives you to get up in the mornings—and how you can build a life of meaning and purpose around those values.
Some Of The Tools That Make Therapy For Men So Effective
Because guys coming into counseling are usually ready for a change, I’ve developed an action-oriented, experiential approach to therapy for men informed by three main strategies:
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), the core of my approach, focuses on helping you face painful thoughts and emotions with clarity and strength rather than avoiding or trying to “fix” them. By improving how you relate to these internal experiences, you’ll gain the psychological flexibility to take purposeful action—even when things feel hard.
- Experiential Work gives you something to act on, not just think about. That includes using mindfulness techniques, guided imagery, artistic expression, and simulation exercises that allow you to practice new skills in real time. It’s active, hands-on work that gets you moving—and, if you’re feeling stuck or unsure of what you want, this approach helps you reconnect to what matters.
- Attachment Theory offers us a framework to examine how your early relationships shaped the way you operate today—especially when it comes to connection, trust, or conflict. I’ll help you identify patterns that aren’t serving you anymore and give you the tools to shift those dynamics so you can show up differently, both for yourself and those around you.
You Can Enjoy A Life Of Greater Meaning
Whether you’re struggling with anger management issues, low self-esteem, poor work-life balance, or a general lack of fulfillment, counseling for men truly can help.
With my support, you’ll deepen your self-awareness, develop more self-control, and acquire stronger life skills you can use to optimize your career, relationships, and overall well-being for years to come. In the process, you’ll be healing old wounds and reconnecting with a greater sense of meaning, purpose, and joy in life.
Do You Still Have Questions About Therapy For Men?
Let’s Team Up And Work Through This Together
If you feel stuck in life—unsatisfied with yourself, your relationships, or your career, counseling for men can offer you clarity and support for actively creating change that makes a difference. To schedule your first appointment or set up your free, 20-minute consultation, you can call (720) 285-3115, email me, click on the contact button, or use my scheduling calendar.
Robert Allison Counseling offers in-person and online therapy for men in Denver, Highlands, Sloan’s Lake, Jefferson Park, and throughout Colorado.
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